I do my thing, and you do your thing.
I am not in this world
to live up to your expectations.
And you are not in this world
to live up to mine.
You are you
and I am I.
Gestalt counseling has at its core two key principals. The first emphasizes experiencing the present moment in its entirety. The second is that each and every person is linked and connected to all things. Gestalt counseling focuses on the growth process and the development of human potential.
In practice, we do not talk of instant joy, instant sensory awareness, and instant cure. Additional to overcoming symptoms, we become more alive, creative, and free from feeling stuck with unfinished issues. The growth process, is a process that takes time. We have not only to get through the role-playing, we also have to work with the holes in the personality to make the person feel whole and complete again. One doesn’t have to restrict life, but to invest in the self and take the time it takes to grow.
Gestalt counseling view on anxiety.
Anxiety is the excitement, the elan vital (vital impetus) which we carry with us, and which becomes stagnated if we are unsure about the role we have to play. If we don’t know if we will get applause, or criticism, we hesitate, so the heart begins to race and in our excitement we can’t move forward. One formula for anxiety is simple; anxiety is the gap between the now and the then. In the now, we are less likely to be anxious, because the excitement flows immediately into ongoing spontaneity. Sometimes we take a leap, not knowing what’s coming next. In the present moment, we can harness our creative and inventive forces to move forward.